William: Hmm, lol, it’s nice we are all guys here so we can express ourselves. For me, sex is important, it is a tool for bonding with my spouse. It’s the height of emotional, physical and spiritual connection and agreement between my wife and I. In fact, sometimes we stop right in the middle of it to ask God for specific things. We have it frequently, wink wink.
Sullivan: Wow, that’s nice. We are still working on this area. Our sex lifedepends on my wife’s mood, what happened at her office, if she was stuck in traffic. Her number one complain is often headache or that I am insensitive. This hurts so much that I feel really rejected every time. There seems to be one complaint or the other, it’s like walking on egg shells.
James: I have come to associate it with punishment. Funny as that may sound, I think it’s my wife’s tool for ‘punishing’ me whenever she is not happy with me. I believe this is wrong though. I often tell her that it feels like withdrawing food from your child as a means of punishment. Just like Victor Akunna said, “sex for couples must not be used as a weapon”.
Victor: That’s true James, couples should learn to resolve their differences through communication, not punishment or manipulation. More so, men should also learn to connect and build their wives’ emotions during the day. Be proactive about sex, don’t just disappear and reappear in the evening to demand for sex.
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