Enjoying Marriage?

In my few years as a romance and relationship coach, I have come to observe that many of the big issues couples experience could have been avoided.

Marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not endured. However, marital problems are like little fires, when you don’t extinguish them early, they can burn down a whole city.

When people say marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not endured, they do not imply that every marriage is smooth and should be abandoned, like many do these days, at the sign of the slightest pressure. Rather, what they mean is that you should enjoy the relationship; it should be a relationship in which you can truly be yourself without any pretence or pressure of trying to measure up all the time to impossible standards. This, of course, just like anything worth having, requires work by both parties because when a house is abandoned, it begins to rot and may eventually fall.

Hence, I would suggest that you decide to strengthen your relationships and marriage. Forgive one more time, love again, respect again, pray again, keep managing your emotions, go for counselling one more time, send lovely text messages, leave love notes, do what you know would pull sweet heart strings. Romantic marriages are not spontaneous, they are deliberately orchestrated and worked out.

Victor Akunna
Foundation for Family Affairs

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