Great Marriage: Polite Disagreement

As couples work together to achieve different objectives, trying to make ends meet, they are bound to disagree on many issues. This is understandable, but what makes the difference is how the disagreement is handled.
Victor: Share with us, how you have been able to maintain the bond between you and your spouse?
Robert: Thank you for the opportunity. As a little boy, I saw my parents constantly argue about every little thing. It seemed like there was constantly a power tussle, both of them trying to win at the expense of the other person. However, when I got married I decided to do things differently.
Victor: When you say “I decided to do things differently”, what is your wife’s stance?
Roberts: Wow, my wife is extremely supportive. What I meant was that, I knew I had a big issue to sort out, having been raised in a conflict-ridden environment. Hence, my wife and I laid down some ground rules that guide us when we disagree on any issue; we leave no room for resentment, shouting or name-calling, every issue has to be talked through. This has been tough for me because I have had to learn new skills and new ways of thinking and responding during disagreement, but the commitment is paying off.
ACTION POINT: Set up ground rules for conflict management and resolution. Leaving things to chance creates room for chaos.
Chidi & Victor Akunna
Romance and Relationship Catalysts
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Chidi & Victor Akunna are leading voices on marital romance and family life. They are passionate about helping individuals, couples and organisations build sustainable and valuable relationships, and testimonials abound. They are authors of many articles and books. They partner in the administration of “Romance Masterclass” – a coaching programme and “Lite the FIRE” workshop – a couples’ romance makeover intervention. Together, they write “Connected Hearts” – a leading daily devotional on spicing up marital romance and strengthening families. They also oversee the operations of Foundation for Family Affairs – a charity focused on strengthening families around the globe. Feel free to enjoy the resources available here!

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