Marriage is like a movie. Watching movies is one of the ways we relax and learn a thing or two. This means that we invest time in selecting just the right movie. Why ruin a perfect hang out?
Talking about movies, they are fantastic metaphor for life, just as William Shakespeare said many centuries ago, “all the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances”. Marriage is like a movie with invisible scripts. Yes, there are scripts, but not the ones we can print, download or read from our mobile phones because they are ingrained in us.
Every marriage you have seen; every story you have heard; every advice you have been given; every book you have read; every celebrity breakup you have followed; they all have ‘scripted’ you into the fiancé, fiancée, husband or wife you have become. This was succinctly captured by Orison Swett Marden in his quote, “every experience in life, everything with which we have come in contact in life, is a chisel which has been cutting away at our life statue, moulding, modifying, shaping it. We are part of all we have met. Everything we have seen, heard, felt, or thought has had its hand in moulding us, shaping us.”
To put it simply, rather than complain about your movie or your role, change your script. You are the producer, the director and the actor. How your marriage is at the moment is a reflection of who you are because who we are is what we bring into every relationship. We all have scripts about how sex, money, in-laws, parenting, etc., should be handled in marriage, most of which were probably passed on to us by other people.
The best scripts are usually the ones that suit our character – most suitable to our family vision, they feel like you. Hence, if you find out that you have a terrible script, you can change it by reaching professionals such as coaches, therapists, counsellors, attending seminars/workshops and above all, exposing your mind to the Bible, these would do a factory reset on you.
Rewriting your script will change your life forever!
Chidi & Victor Akunna
Romance & Intimacy Catalyst
www.foundationforfamily affairs.org
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