Maturity is one subject that has different definitions. Some people say it is the ability to delay gratification – it is deciding to wait until marriage to have sex. Other people say it is the ability to handle a setback, disappointment or criticism without falling apart, venting or unleashing your whole ‘venom’ on the people around you. All these are correct, but let’s examine maturity within the context of marriage.
Personally, I think maturity is when you apologise to your spouse for peace to reign in your home, even when you believe that you are right.
Maturity is when you initiate a conversation, even though silent treatment is a more ‘convenient’ option.
Maturity is when your neighbours/children have no idea that you just had a disagreement a second before they stepped in.
Maturity is when you don’t correct your spouse publicly, even though you are so upset – knowing that eye-witnesses won’t be there when you settle and would have gone with a bad impression of your spouse or of you both.
Maturity is when you speak up for your spouse before your friends and family, even when he/she has refused to pick your call or just annoyed you.
Maturity is choosing principles over your present emotions.
Maturity is thinking long-term relationship/marriage success, rather than immediate rewards.
Maturity has little to do with age, years of marriage, gender, exposure, etc. It is about finding out and doing the right things in the right ways – even if they are unpopular, inconvenient or go against your personal preference.
Victor Akunna
Romance and Relationship Catalyst
Co-author Spicy Romance
www.foundationforfamilyaffairs.org
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