There are different reasons communication is important in marriage. Sometimes, couples communicate to pass information, clarify issues and resolve dispute. Couples also communicate to build intimacy. Beyond this, as a couple, we leverage on communication to build mental intimacy. Mental intimacy is about connecting with each other at a mental level. This makes communicating ideas easier because of mental compatibility.
One thing we have come to observe and accept is that marriage is like a living thing, it grows or shrinks from within us, it is really not what happens outside us that ruins or enables our marriage to thrive, but our perspectives and interpretations. The real battle against our marriages are won or lost within us, in our minds.
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This is why we leverage on communication to strengthen our mental intimacy. For instance, one thing we do regularly is to share quality information (books, articles sermons, debates, etc.) with each other on important issues in marriage and life, depending on where we are on our journey. This helps us to be on the same page, facilitating decision-making and enabling us engage in deeper, richer and more meaningful communication.
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We are deliberate about growing together; we have meaningful discussions, attend the same seminars, listen to sermons together,… when we are unable to, we ensure that we share what we learn with each other.
Whatever you learn influences who you become and who you become determines the depth of intimacy you both share in your marriage.
Chidi & Victor Akunna
Romance & Intimacy Catalysts
www.foundationforfamilyaffairs.org
Chidi & Victor Akunna are leading voices on marital romance and family life. We are passionate about helping individuals, couples and organisations build sustainable and valuable relationships, and testimonials abound. They are authors of many articles and books.
