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Where is the Flame?

Where is the Flame?

phpKOc72oPMFriendship in marriage needs to be nurtured regularly!

Mary and Paul meet in school and fall in love. They leave school years later and the love between them grows stronger. They decide to get married. Regardless of how busy their schedules are, the friendship between them is intact.

Ten years later, they have three children and life is busier. They talk less and spend less time together; the passion they share wanes.

According to C.S. Lewis, “It is when we are doing things together that friendship springs up – painting, sailing ships, praying, philosophizing, and fighting shoulder to shoulder. Friends look in the same direction.”

Friendship in marriage needs to be nurtured regularly. When couples do not give attention to developing their friendship, they grow apart.

Through prayers and deliberate efforts, friendship can be restored. Seek activities you both enjoy; take out time to do things that would boost your friendship. Your marriage is worth it!

By: Chidi Akunna

imageChidi Akunna is an exceptional relationship expert, a UK based solicitor with special interests in Family and Children Law. She is passionate about the challenges and opportunities facing teenagers, 21st century marriages and parenting. She runs workshops for teenagers.

She also partners with her husband in running “Romance Masterclass” – a coaching programme and “Lite the FIRE”workshop – a couples’ romance makeover intervention. Together, they write “Connected Hearts” – a leading daily devotional on spicing up marital romance, while also running Foundation for Family Affairs – a charity focused on strengthening families around the globe.


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Comments (7)

  • FFAffairs Reply

    Marry your friend because friendship is an important pillar in lasting marriages!

    February 16, 2015 at 1:58 pm
  • Emmanuel Enemakwu Reply

    Great article

    February 19, 2015 at 3:04 am
    • FFAffairs Reply

      Thank you great man!

      February 19, 2015 at 3:12 pm
  • Kinshi Sharma Reply

    Amazing article… great work. Victor and chidi !!
    Marriage is a universal connection between two souls.. however things like physical chemistry, emotional bonding, or mutual understanding etc. must be nurtured every day. Its an on going process.. “to be with the flow, you have to flow….” One should not leave something on the other partner to understand your needs or desires by default. U have to build that friendship n keep nourishing it throughout.

    February 20, 2015 at 3:03 pm
    • FFAffairs Reply

      Wow @ Kinshi, I love this comment “marriage is a universal connection between two souls…one should not leave something on the partner to understand your needs by default”. This is awesome!!!

      February 22, 2015 at 7:14 am
      • Kinshi Sharma Reply

        Thank you for appreciating my efforts n understanding 🙂

        February 25, 2015 at 11:02 am
  • shalom Prince Reply

    @Kinshi that is a whole sermon. Well said. I have come realise that marriage/Friendship is “Work”, it takes great effort and ‘understanding our partners peculiar emotional swing mood to make relationships sweet/smooth. God help us all.

    March 13, 2015 at 7:46 pm

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