The Bridegroom: From Title to Role by Victor Akunna

Marriage is a unique experience, it never leaves us the same. I have seen this statement reflect in the lives of different married couples in different ways. For instance, I have seen average women completely transform into awesome divas after marriage, they seem to glow from within. I have also seen struggling men gain new levels of confidence and a sense of invincibility which commands doors to open to them faster. Does that mean that you have to be married to glow or conquer obstacles? Not exactly. However, what I am trying to say is that there is a favour that rests on a married couple which multiplies when they leverage on the benefit of synergy.

Talking about synergy, as men, we must take up a very critical role of supporting our wives’ dreams. It is ok for our wives to submit their dreams under the family’s vision, but this does not mean that they should lose their God-given mandate. A true bridegroom grooms his bride until her potentials are transformed into productive ends. There are many examples of marriages of men/women who were purpose-driven, accomplishing goals and impacting lives within their environment, who seem to have suddenly lost drive and direction.

According to the Oxford dictionary, the word ‘support’ means to “bear all or part of a weight of; hold up”. This implies that as a spouse, you must endeavour to support your wife to grow mentally, financially, socially, etc. Encourage her to enroll for a course, take on new challenges, re-evaluate her abandoned goals. It is an anomaly to be threatened by your wife’s progress. A bridegroom grooms his bride.

Victor Akunna
Romance & Relationship Catalyst
www.foundationforfamilyaffairs.org