I know you care, but I don’t feel it!
“I predict most of my husband’s behaviour. For instance, he never misses birthdays, anniversaries, our date nights, etc. As a matter of fact, he will always send a card, a cake or a bouquet of flowers.”
Things may be slightly different in your marriage, but we are sure that you can predict each other’s behaviour to an extent. This is nice, but there is always room for growth and improvement. A truly romantic man/woman does not wait for Valentine’s day, birthdays, wedding anniversaries, etc., to communicate love.
When romantic gestures become too predictable, it can take the spice out of the whole experience. It is ok if you are just beginning to experiment with the whole idea of stepping out of your comfort zone, to connect with your spouse beyond “how was your day” and “lip service” levels. However, the real deal is beyond the surface – your ability to dive deep to explore and meet your spouse’s emotional needs, understand and communicate his/her language of love.
When last did you plan a pleasant surprise? Do you know what your spouse would appreciate? Are you allowing your daily targets rob your marriage of its potential for awesomeness? Romance is not a product of chance!
ACTION POINT: Be deliberate about romance in your marriage; develop a romance calendar today.
NB: If you run a family budget, you must put that into consideration when planning a surprise so as not to jettison your family goal.
Chidi & Victor Akunna
Culled from our Connected Hearts Daily Devotional 2.0 (C) 2015