The sexual experience of couples is often an area that rarely gets talked about for various understandable reasons. The topic is so private that couples don’t want their lives glossing the local ‘hello’ magazine; other times, they are just too ashamed to talk about it; and some others believe that it is a taboo.
However, from my experience of working with couples, I have come to observe a few things which I would be sharing with us and I can guarantee that these would resolve many of the sexual dissatisfaction couples experience.
I had a discussion with a gentleman a while ago. After we concluded a session on how to spice up his marital romance, I decided to ask him about sex, knowing how important it is to marital fulfilment. It was almost as if the question deflated his energy, his shoulders suddenly seemed to fall forward, his head bowed and his left hand stroked his head.
“What is it?”, I asked. “Well, my wife always complains, I don’t do it for her.” After 30mins of interviewing him, we came up with a few points he could consider.
1. Implement the Customised Romance Plan (CRP). The quality of your relationship impacts your sexual experience.
2. Build up her emotions during the day. Don’t just disappear in the morning and show up at night for ‘action’, most women want to connect with their husbands emotionally before giving access.
3. Understand your wife’s body, the things that get her turned on and focus on them. Don’t just ask her, explore; the process of discovery is part of the fun 🙂
4. Know and accept the truth that a female body is built differently from yours. You must focus on ‘pleasuring’ her and getting her ‘ready’ and in some cases, getting her ‘there’ before meeting your own need. If you don’t, you would always have a wife who never looks forward to that aspect of your relationship because you have made it all about you.
Victor Akunna
Romance and Relationship Catalyst
Co-author Bedroom Makeover Plus
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