Singlehood is not a disease. It’s not a disability either. It’s a phase everyone must exist in before moving to another phase called marriage. It is a phase nobody escapes. People have different ways of perceiving singlehood, depending on culture, beliefs, unprocessed assumptions,… However, the bottom-line is that it’s a period of time before marriage.
This phase is often laced with different emotions, fuelled by real and unreal situations. These emotions are based on our paradigms or what we call our stories of singlehood. A story in this case is a narrative, a series of recounted events and our perspectives and convictions on how they link together. It is how we view a situation, an individual or ourselves. For example, some of us view singlehood as a disadvantage, loneliness, abandonment, incompleteness. It’s even worse when these are the beliefs of the culture you live in, as this implies that you would be viewed with biased lenses.
What is your story of singlehood? When your story is inaccurate or limiting, your behaviour would be self-sabotaging and catastrophic. Many people have hopped into marriage to cure loneliness (singlehood), with disastrous consequences. As a man thinks in his heart, so he is. Our stories shape our experiences and outcomes.
If all you know about singlehood is all you have been fed with, then it’s high time you discovered your true beliefs… To be continued.
Chidi & Victor Akunna
Romance and Relationship Catalysts
@familaffairs05
www.foundationforfamilyaffairs.org
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