It is a privilege to share a few thoughts this Valentine season. We call it “a season” because it comes and goes like the Harmattan season. A season is something we cannot control, it happens annually. However, what we can control is what we do or refuse to do during seasons.
Another Valentine season is around the corner and like most seasons, e.g. the rainy season, some people may complain because it messes up the streets, creates potholes, causes traffic, while on the other hand, someone in a remote village is grateful because his water tank can be filled till the next rainfall.
Valentine’s day triggers different emotions, some single people feel neglected and lonely, some married people feel pressured to meet up with imaginary social standards set by ‘The Joneses’ who are probably in debt in their bid to sustain an impression on a deficit bank balance ;-).
We are not against Valentine’s day, but our interest is in what we do before and after Valentine’s day.
One word that is often linked with Valentine is romance and for some people, this means sex and its ‘cousins’ ;-). However, we consider romance to be “the little, but consistent, things you do in the pursuit of your spouses’ heart, attention and happiness”. This implies that true love and romance should not be an annual event on our calendar, but a daily experience for our spouse. We must nurture them daily if we want them to grow and blossom.
What if there was no day called Valentine’s day, would you still be romantic?
Is your spouse happy?
Is your marriage your spouse’s ideal image of a marriage and can you do better?
True love is a ‘ritual’, something we do daily for each other’s attention and happiness. True love must be nurtured daily, not annually, to blossom.
If you agree, type #IcommitToDailyValentine
Chidi & Victor Akunna
Romance & Intimacy Catalysts
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